Kosher Books
Obviously there are millions of Kosher books out there, but we are trying to post here the ones that could truly help someone trying to break free of addiction by giving them good stimulation, good entertainment and also good personal growth!
Please send us any book titles that you think would help!I got an e-mail recently from someone: I wanted to let you know that I am reading a new book now called "Battle Plans" How to fight the Yezer Hora (Shaar Press) By Reb Tzipporah Heller and Reb Yocheved Riegler. I have found this book incredible as it teaches so much about who our enemy is and how he works. It also gives incredible tools how to fight the yezer hora. I strongly suggest that you add this book as recommended reading to every internet addict.
- www.artscroll.com
- Judaicabooks.net - new, used and rare Jewish books, all hand picked.
- Rabbi A.J. Twerski's Books - on addictions, self esteem and personal growth!
- "Self Improvement? I'm Jewish" - (The yesodos of the 12-Steps from Chazal)
- "Seek Sobriety Find Serenity"
- "Addictive Thinking"
- "Angel's don't leave footsteps"
- "Waking up just in time"
- "The Addictive Personality" by Craig Nakken.
- Some important books to read by the world-renowned sex addiction therapist Patrick Carnes (www.sexhelp.com): "Out of the Shadows" and "Betrayal Bonds". Also: "Healing the Shame That Binds You" by Bradshaw. These books have actual exercises and assignments to help a person heal from the shame and the bonds we make with people who have abused us or betrayed us. Also, the SLAA books on sex addiction can be very helpful in learning the proven 12 steps to breaking free.
- One idea is to read books on the Holocaust written by religious people. The books will to show you that your struggle is nothing compared to what the Jews went through in this most difficult period in our history, and also you will see the incredible Messiras Nefesh that Yidden had for Mitzvos, which was much harder than the struggles we "think" we have today of saying no to superfluous and harmful pleasures. (See "War Stories" below by "Ben-Moshe")
- "Yechidah" posted on the forum:
I've read a lot on CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - see Chizuk e-mail #563 on this page) in books written by David Burns. Look also for books by Martin Seligman and Aaron Beck. His 2 books "Feeling Good" and "When Panic attacks" are tremendous. It pays for everyone to remember the thought 'distortions' and do those writing exercises. There is also a book called EMETT written by Miriam Adahan that discusses this as well. A lot of her books are based on CBT. CBT helps a lot. There's no hocus-pocus magic there. It's a lot of basic common sense and logic. And if you keep at it, a lot of the extremes of negative emotions are stabilized to a great degree, and the mind and heart become much clearer.Kosher Non-Jewish Books and Novels
- The complete collection of Sherlock Holmes stories by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle - Beautiful language and style. Hundreds of pages of complexity and intellectual stimulation, from both subject and literary style. Plus, it could inspire one to start noticing the many details of the world around you that you take for granted.
- J.R.R. Tolkien's books - Beautiful novels enlaced with good lessons in loyalty, commitment, humility and courage
- The Hobbit
- Lord of the Rings
War Stories
Posted by "Ben-Moshe" on the forum:You stare at that passage in the Chovas Halevovos describing the chassid meeting troops on their way home from the battlefield. The chassid tells the troops that they have just finished the small fight. Now they were embarking on the big fight, the fight against their yetzer horah.
You make a trip to the public library, because you want to find out more about this "small" fight. You bring home twelve heavy tomes describing battles that marked major turning points during World War II. You begin to read...
You read everything you can about the U-boat war. You read how the invincible German submarine fleet turned the Atlantic Ocean into one massive steel graveyard. Merchant ships, along with their destroyer escorts, defenseless against unseen monsters, were dispatched to the ocean floor, one by one. The writing is top-notch and you are drawn to keep reading. You taste the heavy, salty gritty ocean spray. You feel the desperation and fear.
Shall I be a spoiler? I will. In the end, the Allies turn the tables. In fact they turn the tables so dramatically that the German submarine corps eventually suffer the highest suicide rate among all the branches of the German forces. Desperate Allies come up with hundreds of ideas born out of their desperation; ideas ranging from clever convoy tactics and decoys to dramatically improved sonar and radar technology. The Allies worked tirelessly to upgrade their torpedoes and depth-charges, and, very cleverly, destroyed all the fortified and defended submarine repair and berthing facilities along the coastline of Occupied Europe by means of intense carpet bombing.
You move on to that great work Armageddon: The Battle for Germany by Max Hastings, a classic work describing, in nail-biting detail, the Russian and American final advance into Berlin. You read of desperate bravery, of battles lost but a war won. You read of sacrifice. Good versus evil. It gets into your kishkas. The paper-thin Shermans dual the massive Tigers, not from the front, of course, but by improvising and innovating and coming up with ideas forced upon them by necessity. You are covered in grime and sweat, and all you can smell and see is smoke.
It is the wee hours of the morning and you are still reading. You make yourself more comfortable on your sofa and pop a potato chip into your mouth. Then you send another shell screaming towards a smoldering Reichstag.
Two weeks later you are done.
You are now ready to read about the "big" fight.
You return your books to the public library and you pay a visit to the Agudah library. You come home with a big stack of books, mostly from Artscroll and Feldheim, but a few from other publishing houses too. You read "All for the Boss", you read "The Way it Was". You read about mesiras nefesh for Yiddishkeit, Shabbos in particular, in the 1920's and 1930's. You move on to the legendary heroes of the clandestine networks of Chabad, Breslov and Novardok in Stalinist Russia. You read about the Gulags, and, of course, you read about those great giants of spirit, flinty rocks, who shone, otherworldly like, during the Holocaust. You read about contemporary heroes. You read about baalei teshuva, who have given up kol dovor ossur, who have become innovators and leaders, beacons of inspiration and wholesome purity.
You feel very proud to be a part of the Jewish nation.
You are once again sitting on your sofa.
You are crying.
Palgei mayim yordu einai al lo shomru Torosecho.
Your three-year old trundles up to you.
"Totty crying?"
"Yes, Sheifeleh," you say in a low voice, so that Mommy, working on a new chicken recipe in the kitchen, cannot hear.
"Totty's Zeidy lived through the nightmare of the Holocaust and survived. Mommy's Zeidy lost his job every week in order to keep Shabbos. And your Totty," you sniffle, "Lived through the darkest tekufa of the internet, and made it out alive. Right now you cannot possibly understand this. One day you will."