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"To deal with pornography that is a more serious problem, bordering on addiction, it is necessary to cut yourself off from any access you have to porn. Whether it is cable television (and these days, even network television),  internet or a convenient outlet on the way to work, we must make every effort to clear it from our lives completely. This is difficult as we grow accustomed to having all the conveniences, but if our problem is persistent, we will be rewarded in this life and the next if we make the break completely and as soon as possible. If we are not diligent in this area we will continue to find ways to fall back into the same patterns we are trying to break.

Another thing that could be helpful, and it relates to the above: There are some whose difficulty with porn is so great that only the "white-list" internet filters should be used. Sometimes the "black-list" method merely provide surfers with a challenge to see whether or not they can find porn. When you have the white-list filter, you always know what you do and do not have access to. I tried to find out what white-list filters were available. One of the ones that offers this option is: bsafe. It looks like it is an exceptional filter."

One of the only ways I have found to deal with the problem of porn addiction is to have someone to talk with about the problem. I believe we must have someone who we can be open with to share our problem. When we do this on a regular (weekly at the least) basis, we take the problem more seriously. They don't even need to be someone dealing with the same problem. The times when I have felt the most equipped to face the challenge the yetzer hara brings is when I am able to keep the problem out in the open with someone else.

Just a note, be careful of making your wife the one you are open with as she will probably have difficulty understanding the situation.